Here's an analogy on dating I created when I wore a younger man's clothes:
Dating is like playing musical chairs. The music stops and the game is over. The object of the game is to have a chair when the music stops. If you're left without a chair, you get kicked out and have to wait hoping they'll play another game. Things could go smoothly, but usually they don't. Some people sit down quickly, on top of someone else who was already there or they sit on just half of the chair while trying to force out another participant. The same conflict can occur when they try to sit on two chairs at once. Some people sit down way too early, even before the music stops playing. Others find a comfortable chair and linger too long after the music start again when they know they should leave but don't. A common trick is to act as if you were ready to sit down fast and then don't- thereby faking others into sitting. And then, there are those who cautiously wait until the chair they really want in front of them is empty and only then do they happily let go of the chair they are holding on to with their other hand. People get hurt in this game. Some trip over chairs or even themselves due to their haste. Some take back their chairs to the circle when they realize they're not as comfortable as they were when they first sat in them. Some fall flat on their backs, as you do- when you realize the chair you wanted was moved and was no longer behind you when finally committed to sitting down. As time goes on, round after round, something interesting happens. The number of chairs diminishes and it becomes harder and harder to win. Because of this, there are those who become discouraged, refuse to play such games at all, and decide to watch from the corner of the room. If they don’t like the music, there's usually a game going on somewhere that has their style. If they don't like the chairs, there's probably somewhere they can go where they have recliners, rocking chairs, office chairs, or whatever their taste. One fact remains constant: If you want a chair, you have to join in on the game. All in all it's a game, a very important and often serious game. Learn to win it and then you go on to the next room... the game of marriage and children.
Dating is like playing musical chairs. The music stops and the game is over. The object of the game is to have a chair when the music stops. If you're left without a chair, you get kicked out and have to wait hoping they'll play another game. Things could go smoothly, but usually they don't. Some people sit down quickly, on top of someone else who was already there or they sit on just half of the chair while trying to force out another participant. The same conflict can occur when they try to sit on two chairs at once. Some people sit down way too early, even before the music stops playing. Others find a comfortable chair and linger too long after the music start again when they know they should leave but don't. A common trick is to act as if you were ready to sit down fast and then don't- thereby faking others into sitting. And then, there are those who cautiously wait until the chair they really want in front of them is empty and only then do they happily let go of the chair they are holding on to with their other hand. People get hurt in this game. Some trip over chairs or even themselves due to their haste. Some take back their chairs to the circle when they realize they're not as comfortable as they were when they first sat in them. Some fall flat on their backs, as you do- when you realize the chair you wanted was moved and was no longer behind you when finally committed to sitting down. As time goes on, round after round, something interesting happens. The number of chairs diminishes and it becomes harder and harder to win. Because of this, there are those who become discouraged, refuse to play such games at all, and decide to watch from the corner of the room. If they don’t like the music, there's usually a game going on somewhere that has their style. If they don't like the chairs, there's probably somewhere they can go where they have recliners, rocking chairs, office chairs, or whatever their taste. One fact remains constant: If you want a chair, you have to join in on the game. All in all it's a game, a very important and often serious game. Learn to win it and then you go on to the next room... the game of marriage and children.
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